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Dear Frances – Taking Life in Stride .. Breathe In .. Breathe Out

DEAR FRANCES By Frances H. Kakugawa Dear Readers, At our monthly poetry writing session, Lynda shared the following poem. She is her mother’s caregiver. As she read, we all began laughing. “Oh, you find this funny?!” Lynda asked.  Another caregiver in our group asked her if she was offended by our laughing. “Oh no, I....
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Dear Frances – More Thoughts on Surviving Loss

DEAR FRANCES By Frances H. Kakugawa Dear Frances, Funny (but not ha-ha funny) that you would bring this (February’s column on “To Help Us Make It Through”) up now about our loved ones who are no longer here. Just yesterday, the once-a-week mow-and-blow guy asked, “How’s your mother?” I must have looked stricken because he immediately....
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Dear Frances – The Mighty “P”: Poetry

DEAR FRANCES By Frances H. Kakugawa Omoiyari . . . Think of others first and good karma will return to you. — Frances H. Kakugawa Dear Frances, I was watching an Alzheimer’s program and it made me want to thank you for saving me from being who I was starting to become. It allowed me to....
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Dear Frances – In Praise of the Silent Caregivers

Frances H. Kakugawa Hawai‘i Herald Columnist Omoiyari . . . Think of others first and good karma will return to you. — Frances H. Kakugawa An Open Letter to the Press and Dr. Oz Special attention is suddenly being paid to Alzheimer’s disease on television and in the news media because a famous person’s mother....
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Dear Frances – Seeing Half-Full

Frances H. Kakugawa Hawai‘i Herald Columnist Omoiyari . . . Think of others first and good karma will return to you. — Frances H. Kakugawa Dear Frances, I’m one of the elders who still open doors. When a young man opened the door for my wife recently, she told him, “Thank you for being a....
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Dear Frances – Timeless Memories, Moving Memories

Frances Kakugawa Hawai‘i Herald Columnist I am writing this column before I leave for Hawai‘i to give several talks on caregiving and to introduce my new book on Kapoho. To be honest, I’m feeling a bit burnt out after spending much of my last 20 years doing talks on the road. As fate would have....
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Dear Frances – Bathing with Love

Frances Kakugawa Hawai‘i Herald Columnist Dear Readers, I’d like to introduce you to two male caregivers from my monthly support group in Sacramento. Bob first shared his “On Bathing Fran” two months ago. Then a month later, Ross responded to Bob’s poem with his “How to . . .” Their words speak volumes of who....
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Dear Frances – And the Good News Is …

Frances H. Kakugawa Hawai‘i Herald Columnist Omoiyari . . . Think of others first and good karma will return to you. — Frances H. Kakugawa Dear Readers, I have some good news to share with you. You may have noticed that questions and interactions from readers have been on the decline in recent months. That....
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Dear Frances – “Dear Frances” to Help Us Make it Through

DEAR FRANCES By Frances H. Kakugawa Dear Frances, So, what did you get from your mother this past Christmas? Lilly Hawai‘i Dear Readers . . . Lilly is referring to a story I shared with you some time ago in this column. Lilly . . . you will find the answer to your question at....
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Dear Frances – Wife-bathing Column Generates Interest

Frances H. Kakugawa Hawai‘i Herald Columnist Happy New Year, Readers! I hope you had an enjoyable New Year’s Day. My Nov. 1 column interest in which two husbands shared their experience of bathing their disabled wives generated the kind of interest I had not expected. Here is some of the feedback I received. Dear Frances,....

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