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Dear Frances – We Should All “Execute Our Independence”

DEAR FRANCES By Frances H. Kakugawa Dear Linda, You have over-thanked me with this poem. Thank you for all the “ifs” that we caregivers live with day after day. When they are so eloquently presented, they turn our hour-by-hour life as caregivers into poetry. Thank you for taking us inward into our own. Frances Readers....
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Dear Frances – Singing the Sick Bay Blues

DEAR FRANCES By Frances H. Kakugawa Dear Readers, I’m writing this in October, before I leave for my speaking engagements in Denver, because I know I won’t be able to meet my deadline after my trip. If I don’t do this now, it will mean an email all in capital letters from my “Boss Lady”....
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Dear Frances – When the End Comes …

DEAR FRANCES By Frances H. Kakugawa Omoiyari . . . Think of others first and good karma will return to you. — Frances H. Kakugawa Dear Frances, I’m sure you will receive many responses to your last column. My mom also died when I had left the room briefly to make a phone call, and I....
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Dear Frances – A Read and Contemplate Column

DEAR FRANCES By Frances H. Kakugawa Dear Readers, As this issue of The Hawai‘i Herald reaches you, I am in New Jersey to speak and lead a workshop at the Brookdale Foundation National Respite and RAPP (Relatives as Parents Program) conference. I knew I would be away, so I decided to devote this month’s column....
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Dear Frances – Preserving Memories By Passing on Treasures

DEAR FRANCES By Frances H. Kakugawa Dear Frances, I enjoy reading your column in The Hawai‘i Herald. For the past 12 years, my husband and I have been caregivers for both of our parents, mainly for my parents. My mom is still alive and at 92 years of age, shows no signs of dementia and....
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Dear Frances – Taking Life in Stride .. Breathe In .. Breathe Out

DEAR FRANCES By Frances H. Kakugawa Dear Readers, At our monthly poetry writing session, Lynda shared the following poem. She is her mother’s caregiver. As she read, we all began laughing. “Oh, you find this funny?!” Lynda asked.  Another caregiver in our group asked her if she was offended by our laughing. “Oh no, I....
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Dear Frances – Insights for the Coming Holidays

DEAR FRANCES By Frances H. Kakugawa I returned from my speaking engagements on the East Coast and found these insightful letters and emails waiting for me. Dear Frances, Your poem, “Tick Tock,” in the October issue, hit a nerve. When my father was in the nursing home, I asked him if my aunt and uncle....
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Dear Frances – In Praise of Poetry Month

DEAR FRANCES By Frances H. Kakugawa APRIL The poets, in droves Lick their pens, salivating Over metaphors, turning Death into life. It must be National Poetry Month. — Frances Kakugawa 26 LETTERS 26 letters of the alphabet — Infinite combinations of words, sentences, paragraphs. Yet feelings, emotions defy such combinations. After one exposure My 3-year-old....
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Dear Frances – The Mighty “P”: Poetry

DEAR FRANCES By Frances H. Kakugawa Omoiyari . . . Think of others first and good karma will return to you. — Frances H. Kakugawa Dear Frances, I was watching an Alzheimer’s program and it made me want to thank you for saving me from being who I was starting to become. It allowed me to....
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Dear Frances – More Thoughts on Surviving Loss

DEAR FRANCES By Frances H. Kakugawa Dear Frances, Funny (but not ha-ha funny) that you would bring this (February’s column on “To Help Us Make It Through”) up now about our loved ones who are no longer here. Just yesterday, the once-a-week mow-and-blow guy asked, “How’s your mother?” I must have looked stricken because he immediately....

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