DEAR FRANCES By Frances H. Kakugawa
This column is especially for family members who describe themselves as “long-distance caregivers,” although I’m not sure a role like that even exists. A primary caregiver takes care of a loved one on a daily basis . . . period. Maybe family members who give support from afar can be described as “long-distance supporters.” Although caregivers appreciate supportive phone calls and financial help from afar, there is more to caregiving than long-distance contacts. We all know, of course, that unsolicited advice or negative messages can hurt. Caregivers need all the support they can get.
As you probably know, preparing meals and then cleaning up the kitchen takes up a lot of a caregiver’s time, in addition to all of the demands of caregiving. I asked my good friend, Lori Ikeda, a Hawai‘i expat, to share some of her homemade recipes so that family members who are unable to provide daily help can contribute in other more practical ways. Here are four recipes from Lori. These can be prepared in advance and mailed through the U.S. Postal Service. (College students away from home would appreciate these, as well, as Lori’s daughter has these past two years.)