DEAR FRANCES By Frances H. Kakugawa

Dear Frances,

I have a question. Things are going as well as can be expected with my dad. We have great little conversations and time together, and tasks are slowly being taken care of with the recognition that things are in an almost constant state of change.

There is a lot to be grateful for. But, lately, I’ve been struggling with an almost overwhelming sadness. Sometimes I worry that it may compromise the strength I need to do the tasks to care of him, like dealing with house repair people, the yard, doctors and other medial people, appointments, medications, health issues, insurance, lawyers, caregivers, day care, taxes, bills, food, laundry, groceries, daily phone calls, emergencies, etc. Did you ever experience that deep sadness when you took care of your mother?

Jason

Honolulu, Hawai‘i

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